Engagement and power, or the lack there of
THE ENGAGEMENT OF POWER
In some Hindu sects there is the belief that man has only so
many breaths before he dies. This could be the potential birth place of the
phrase “don’t waste your breath”. And also this could be a good initiative to
ponder were one is spending their emotional energy in one’s life. In some of
these same sects they believe that the breath is also related to the vital life
force of the human body and the aura.
On a clear and potent day in Coast Rica, were the sun was
warm the ocean smoothly lapped behind us and the air was a perfect temperature
to inhale easily and smoothly. A scene filled with vital earth energy, the kind
that when you feel it you understand how it nourishes everything. A mentor of
mine talked about ENGAGEMENT and POWER.
He spoke of first what power was in the native American
shamanic view of his tradition, and also how on a daily basis one looses and
gives this power away or is robbed of it either by default or un conscious action.
He talked about the ego battles between people in the work place, with neighbors
and at home.
For example:
A husband comes home after a day of work and is emotionally
exhausted of his vital energy mentally and emotionally. Because his job has demanded
that he deal with upset costumers in a society were (The customer is always
right, WRONG) and on top of that his boss wants him to do more with less pay.
You probably relate to this picture. He comes home to his wife who is full of
love and has cleaned made dinner and took care of the children and when he gets
home with his depleted vital state asks were his robe is. She says probably
still in your laundry which I hadn’t had time to get to yet. The man begins to
get angry and point out all the things she hasn’t done yet and how it is
harming his way of life.
The wife who is egger to fix this un-loving riff try’s
to fix the situation with no success The women falls asleep in the end drained,
and the man is now chipper and awake feeling good for the night. This is how
the man has replenished his resources, by unconsciously taking from his loving
wife, for in the minds of most married people, is that sense of “the other half”
or the partner that is supposed to “be there” for me .
With this unconscious entitlement
he depletes her and wonders why she is always tired. This could lead her to
early metaphase or even chronic fatigue And other life force issues.
In this situation the women also gives her power away, and
also does not know why then she is drained. In this illustration we see the way
we engage and how it leaves us.( I will say here that this represents no shovenism,
that I have experienced and seen it the other way to were women drain men.)
So the thought and practice is, if one considers every engagement,
and chooses carefully which situations, conversations, Person, and timing of
his engagements. One will be less drained, more emotionally confident and centered,
and aware of the inter play of people who may be draining you in your life.
I will again highlight the unconsciousness of this emotional
and vital draining. Not all are aware of these things and some even when made
aware will unconsciously keep doing it. DO NOT demonize those that do it. Its
not something you can fix. What you can do is make decisions of who and what
YOU engage in and therefor heal yourself your life and possibly depletion
issues.